A lot of you hear that someone has been abused and you automatically assume physical abuse. There are a great multitude of types pf abuse and I would like to delve into the subject a little deeper.
1) Physical Abuse is as we know where one person is harming another by sustaining damage to their physical body. My ex husband has choked me and hit me in the face. That was physical abuse.
2) Mental abuse is where someone is verbally assaulting you. I had been through a lot of verbal abuse in my day. As a teen I was called names such as fat, ugly, freak, gay, weirdo, and so on. As an adult my ex would get drunk and call me stupid, he called me that a lot. He would call me a whore, bitch, which he called me nearly everyday, I hated that, when he was real mad I was a fat, ugly, slut.
3) Bullies are something we all know is there. Some if us were affected by it, some were not, and some of us were the bully. I was bullied since elementary school. Not just by students but by teachers as well. My first grade teacher would give me detention damn near daily, she went through my backpack to see if I brought toys to school or my security blanket, which I carried everywhere back then. I would get detention for that. She said I would never amount to anything and I was incapable of learning. She was wrong. Students called me names as a kid, I never knew why. In high school I was picked on by the popular kids daily. The cheerleaders would set me up intentionally with random things just to embarrass me. The principal even picked on me. He would send me home for my clothes saying they were inappropriate, I dressed different but never inappropriate, even though the popular girls always had on shorts way way too short for school. They forced me to chose between the 2 things I loved doing. Music and basketball. I chose music and became an instant social outcast, but one of the popular boys got to do both.. hmmm. I was bullied by my ex into doing drugs, random sex acts I was not comfortable with, and babysitting for his friends teen girlfriends while they all went out. I don't do babysitting. I was ALWAYS bullied.
4)Self harm is an abuse most don't think about. It involves cutting, choking, drugs, alcohol...anything that casues pain. I did a lot of that. I started cutting myself in high school during my senior year. That was the hardest year for me. That year I gave up all hope in life and isolated myself from the world. I went through a lot. I was dumped by a boy who I was "in love" with, I ran away for him, I was sold for drugs, used, I returned home and to high school just to be kicked around even harder. I started cutting and scratching my arms and legs when I was angry, which was every day. I also began drinking a lot. I would sit in my room playing the guitar I stole, with a hidden bottle of brandy, would tear up my clothes and make new ones that were weird and dye my hair pink, pierce my face, just to rebel against everyone. I didn't care anymore. I smoked a lot, I stole cigarettes from my grandpa.. sorry grandpa.. and would steal anything and everything from friends and family. With the guilt, I would cut myself.
These are just some examples of abuse. There are many more fine details out there. If anyone has questions or would like to share some info or a story, please feel open to contact me. I would love to hear from you!
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